1.07.2018

An interesting exercise for a working photographer: spend a week in you parent's house looking at all the family photographs.

Much younger versions of Ben and Studio Dog.

I am as guilty as any other photographer of looking mostly at my best work. It's stored in archival museum boxes, trendy and expensive folios and stacks of yellow Kodak and red Agfa printing paper boxes. I can open a box and look at street scenes that were lovingly printed on black and white paper. I can open a filing cabinet and flip through page after page of transparencies, the subjects of which were meticulously lit with expensive lighting systems and captured with precision medium format camera systems. If this is all I ever look at I come away with a very skewed and very elitist understanding of what photography means; what function it ultimately serves hundreds of millions of families. Billions of people.

Everywhere I look in my parent's modest home I see photographs. None of them are landscapes. None of them are particularly artful or academic. There are no blurry street scenes nor are there "compelling" shots of food or really any of the work you would expect to see on Instagram or Flickr.
Instead the photographs behind all kinds of frames create a visual history of my brother, sister and me as we grew up and then there is a newer layer of the images that track grandchildren from infancy through college. 

Few of the images were "professionally" done. There is the portrait I paid for on my parents' 50th anniversary which was done by San Antonio photographer, Charles Parish. It's a beautiful image of my folks at the apex of their health and good fortune standing in a local park with each other. I had prints made for my parents as well as me and my siblings. But there is an equally compelling snapshot of them a number of years later, taken in low light after a family dinner at our favorite restaurant, Cappy's. My parents weren't so much posed as they were frozen in their tracks but the image represents the last "marker" of the time before the slow decay from health issues started to surface more obviously. By the time this photo was taken my dad started walking with a cane and my mother started to seem frail. 

In their kitchen hangs two different combination frames that each contain about a dozen smaller images of various sizes. A random compiling of images; each from a certain slice of time. One frame includes a shot of my dad in a tie and white shirt at work. A more recent one is of my brother in law holing a book and mugging for the camera. In the center is a snapshot that I think I had taken of my mother's mother (at 95) with my brother's son at toddler age in her lap, in a rocking chair. She's reading him a book with the light coming from one side through a large window.

To the right of that is an image of Belinda as a very young adult with her legs drawn up and her hands wrapped around her knees. My gosh, she seems so young. Over on the right of the frame is a photograph of me, taken from one side, intently focusing a camera with a silver lens on it. My hair is curly and brown. 

The images are strewn through the house as if deposited by a neat hurricane. Every bookshelf is covered with images of their grandchildren. Some of the images were taken at school by services like Olan Mills and the others were supplied in an endless series by proud parents with a range of photographic skills. The value of the image always a reflection of the emotion presented and never calculated by the spit and polish of technique. Each antique dresser is covered with images from a different time strata of our collective existence. The tall dresser in the rear bedroom of the house seems to be home to ancient, professionally done, black and white photographs of my grandparents. Perfect poses and exacting and exquisite lighting delivered to quality papers that have already stood the test of time without degradation. 70 to 80 years, in some cases with no ill effects. 

While there is a difference in the posed, professional images and the more candid ones the candid ones benefit from having had the operator in the right place at the right time with the right intention. 
The perfect inventory in the house is a blend of the two styles. One showing the moment and the action, the other showing a formal perfection of the person being photographed. 

Another layer is represented by the books I found in a box. These were little, plastic albums that my wife made for my mother and my wife's mother for the "Mother's Days" from the time of Ben's childhood. Each book contains 50 or more images that were taken of Ben doing activities or being held, or hanging out with family members. Each book covers one year. There were 15 years of them in the carefully stored boxes. I sat down with a few of the books and looked at the 4x6 inch prints in succession. In one Ben plays King Arthur in a school play and those photographs are followed by ones in which Ben is winning a ribbon at a swim meet. These are followed by images of Ben and his entry to the Science Fair. Most of these were taken by me or Ben's mom, Belinda. The images recreate the moments for me that resonate with a certain intensity I did not expect. But certainly relish. 

Tomorrow I'll be checking my dad into Memory Care and, with my brother and sister absent, the task falls to me to curate a collection from a houseful of time capsules into a small selection that will fit on the tops of his dresser, end table and bedside table in his new apartment. I'm casting aside my snobbishness about execution in order to be open to trying to understand which moments and expressions will ultimately serve my father's sense of calm and continuity best. 

This has been a valuable learning experience for me. I need to learn to cast aside the pursuit of trying to be aesthetically present all the time in my work and leave much more space for happy accidents and testaments to the "here and now." I need to forget the stuffy artifice of finding just the right lens or just the right aperture and instead shoot with a more joyous abandon. I've come to realize that, with family photographs, it's all about the memories that the images convey. They don't stand alone but are forever locked with meaning by the context of our own histories. 

I am currently looking for the little album that my mother made in the 1965 when she hired a taxi to take her to an encampment of gypsies miles from Adana, Turkey. She made a few dozen wonderful, color snapshots of the people at the camp with a primitive zone focusing camera and color negative film. They get better every time I look at them...

There is very little drama in my family. My parents come from Pennsylvania stock on both sides. My paternal grandfather was a banker. My maternal grandfather worked in the Pennsylvania court system for 50 years. My parents come from staid and conservative stock. But in the photographs of my family the little eccentricities are in evidence in the photographs of each subsequent generation. 

A trip to the family home might bring back a feeling of relevance to many photographers who have grown stale in their work. They might excavate and discover just how essential the emotional content of photographs is to their ultimate success. Not a success of gallery adoration, necessarily, but as a record of the continuous process of existence that is the nature of family. 

No "Family of Man" here. Just the shiny bright moments of discovery and happiness evinced in the pride filled collection of visual or metaphoric kisses. 








8 comments:

Anonymous said...

That photo of Ben and Studio Dog is just fabulous! Prints provide the memories.

Welcome back,

Rick

ODL Designs said...

A exhibition to the passage of time. Sounds like an emotional experience Kirk, keep well.

George Janik said...

I would like to see some of your family fotos, especially your parents. Let them be family snapshots and/or even the more "artsy, professional" ones.
Your family situation is similar to what mine went through. My father passed away in 2006, and after that my mother's dementia really took hold and increased. It was there for years, but she somehow was able to carry on and take care of my father and his failing physical health.
She lasted for a few more years living with my sister slowly declining mentally and physically.
There were good and bad times throughout and the few fotos we have, (happy and sad) are something I enjoy looking through.
Luckily for you and your family, it sounds like the financial aspects of his care are not going to be a problem. Just make sure you with the rest of your family constantly keep on top of his caretakers and don't let them get away with any infractions. Vigilance is going to be very important for someone who may not be able to speak up for himself.
Good luck with this next phase of your life..it's happening all around us with our aging population (myself included) and the inadequate health care this country is famous for.

David said...

As the photographer in the family, I took possession of my parents' several boxes of photos upon my Mom's death. (My Dad took a lot of pictures, even when he was young. My Mom's family, less so.) The first thing I did was just to try to store them properly. Then, when I had more time, I began to go through them. I threw a lot of them away, but kept the ones with people I recognized and the ones that were captioned on the back. (Remember when snapshots came on paper that you could write on.)

A year or so later, I scanned and put together a collection of snapshots of my Mom to show at her 95th birthday. Then I did the same for my Dad, long dead at that time. A year after that, I made a hardback book of snapshots that chronicled my parent's lives from their births, through their meeting and getting married, in the middle of World War II, to their having all their children. Lately, I've been separating out the pictures of my cousins' parents and families and sending them to my cousins.

Some fun surprises: photo documentation of well-known family stories, like how my Mom bought her fur coat; pictures of the parents' girl friends and boy friends before they got together; pictures of Dad managing his grocery store in June 1941 and then pulling guard duty at Fort Jackson two months later; Dad's jeep in Korea with Mom's name stenciled on it.

The siblings and cousins and I all treasure these glimpses into the previous generation. Take your time and savor your parent's photos over the years.

Patrick Dodds said...

Nice melancholic post Kirk, thank you.

Eric Wojtkun said...

Kirk, ironically when I started my serious photographic hobby ten years I told my wife I would need them to remember my children when I get old. I often said...I will be able to meet my kids everyday again for the first time. Now four extra kids later (total of six) my memories are in these photos. Your comments mimic my thoughts I've had over the holiday, and rummaged through old photo galleries and movies with my wife.

These photos kick a story into focus, the feelings come back, and I can even enjoy the feel of joy the specific camera and lens I was using put into my hands. Lately I am getting happy to see my kids reach for the camera ever more often, and include me in the family photos. The circle comes around, and Daddy gets happy.

Enjoy and treasure the moments. I'll keep your family in my prayers.

pswann said...

Wow. That last line, Kirk. You are a writer as much as you are a photographer.

Kirk Tuck said...

pswann, thanks. I try.